Saturday, March 18, 2006 .

Jade(d)


I have thought of calling my daughter Jade, but it seems silly for an asian to do that. Besides, Jade Tan sounds weird. The only person i know who's called Jade is from the movie The Rock, starring Sean Connery, Nick Cage and Ed Harris. She's Connery's daughter in the movie, some fairly unknown actress.


This entry isn't going to be another one about crappy names i wanna give my kid.


Someone asked if I believed in the The One (we're talking about relationships here). I said that i didn't quite buy into the idea, I said that as much as it's really cool and ideal, it's also very unrealistic. I had a theory on love, and i will, to the best of my ability try to make it comprehensive.


Here goes.
"The Perfect One" (lets call it TPO from now on) is 100 on a scale of 1 to 100. I'm using TPO as a hypothetical example so as to illustrate my point. TPO would be the one person whom you meet on the streets and sparks fly immediately, the world stops for the both of you, the angels celebrate your beautiful collision, and even though you don't know each others names, you already wanna get married and have kids and live happily ever after. Of course we know it almost never happens and for very good reason. because TPO is 1 person in an ocean of 6billion people. For all you know, your perfect one might be a hot Russian tennis player or a fat real estate tycoon from Hong Kong. You speak neither Russian nor Cantonese, you don't play tennis and Real Estate was your last choice in your NUS application. That person could be TPO. It could be anybody.
Back to the number scale, TPO would be a 100. Sometimes i even believe that there could be more than one of those TPOs, but lets not complicate matters. It's sad that almost all of us will never meet TPO, but the good news is that humans are dynamic and adaptable, which is to say we can settle for less. I believe that humans can settle for someone who is less than a 100, on average probably 80. Do not, however, get the impression that "settling for less" is a bad thing, because chances are that super happy couple with that perfect life probably isn't a 100. I believe that an average person can be perfectly happy with someone that's about 85. a 95 would already seem so perfect that it might be considered 100. But it really is case by case. Factors like personality and interests of course do play a part in determining compatibility.


Yup. It seems to be a very simple, pragmatic approach even though love is the most complexed thing. It's just a way of making it easier to understand, more layman, like love & relationship for dummies.


Few people have identical ideals for love & dating so feel free to drop a note if you feel differently from the above mentioned.

screaming infidelity at 12:15 AM
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